It’s a new year!
This New Year’s Day was very refreshing. Bleu and I were home with Vivian. The three big kids were off celebrating with their parents. It was freezing outside, but the sun was shining bright and it was crisp and beautiful. We had been cleaning out the garage the day before and so we decided to keep the momentum and pack up all the Christmas decorations. It was like taking down the Christmas tree was this ceremonial act of packing up 2015 and starting fresh. In the spirit of 2016 being upon us, afterwards, Bleu and I sat down to discuss, review, revise, dream and plan our life, our values, and our goals. We do this more often than once a year, but this day felt different. It actually did feel new… and that felt exciting!
This week has since been spent reflecting on that conversation and beginning to organize and get into greater detail what we discussed. It also got me thinking about the kids in two different lights. First, I want to start teaching them to think this way. To be proactive and on purpose with their lives and choices. To be thinking ahead vs. in the moment. Granted, I get this is a huge concept and will take a lot of time for children to grasp and understand on their own personal levels. But my question to myself was, how can I help them catch the essence of this idea? Secondly, a new year means growth. And growth means our children are getting older. And as exciting as this is, I wish I could just hit the pause button and take a picture of all their thoughts and feelings so they could look back some day and see what they thought about and how they viewed themselves and over the years see how they have changed and grown. The question here was how can I capture a window into their minds as a 10, 8, & 6 year old?
I decided a good place to start was a survey. An interview of sorts. I wrote out a list of questions and sat individually with each of the kids and asked them what the heck they thought. Some questions are super simple and easy, so we are able to remember this season of time. The other questions are more insightful, just to get them starting to think about the idea of thinking ahead. I am going to keep working on other ways to, but this was a fun, simple, and fast way to start! The answers in italics are completely their own language as they answered the questions. Upon reading their responses, it is fun to reflect on how their answers showcase their individuality and uniqueness all the while seeing some common thread that is what unites us as a family. I am stoked that we have a new family tradition that is fun and hassle free!
What is your favorite activity with your family? Soccer
What is your favorite character trait about yourself? Athletic
What is your favorite character trait about each of your family members? Brogan, because she’s my sister. Dexter, because he’s my brother. Dad, I’m glad that I have a dad. Cairi, I’m glad that I have a stepmom.
What is your favorite color? Blue
What do you want to achieve this year? Trying to make 2 goals a game at soccer because all of the games we lost.
What is a challenge for you? Reading
How could you work to overcome it? By reading more
What do you want to be when you grow up? A soccer player
What would your own house look like? Like the ones daddy is going to build. Like maybe a tree house with a pool.
What are five words that best describe the type of person you are? Smart, funny, Kind. I don’t really know, that’s all I can think of. (with a little prompting… he landed on) big and strong.
If you had your own family, what would be important to teach your children? Reading. And when they are babies trying to walk.
Dream vacation? Hawaii
Favorite book? Jedi Academy
Favorite sport? Soccer
Favorite expression of art? Fun…happy fun… building legos.
Favorite holiday? Christmas
Who do you look up to? Dad
What is your favorite activity with your family? Movie time
What is your favorite character trait about yourself? I’m funny!
What is your favorite character trait about each of your family members? Grady, because I love him. Brogan, I love her because she’s kind. Bleu, I love Bleu because he gives me nice presents. Mom, I love you because you make the best food.
What is your favorite color? Blue Green
What do you want to achieve this year? I want to give people stuff. Like blankets and pillows and food.
What is a challenge for you? School
How could you work to overcome it? I don’t know
What do you want to be when you grow up? A ninja
What would your own house look like? It would look like a red and black house with 2 golden dragons on the top. Would it have a pool? No.
What are five words that best describe the type of person you are? Funny, I like my friends, I like my family, I share.
If you had your own family, what would be important to teach your children? About God
Dream vacation? Hawaii for 2 weeks
Favorite book? Ninjago
Favorite sport? Baseball
Favorite expression of art? Drawing
Favorite holiday? Why? Christmas because you get presents and learn about God and my birthday because I’m glad that people get to come and celebrate my birthday with me.
Who do you look up to? Nathan and Ethan (his buddies in the first grade)
What is your favorite activity with your family? Watching movies
What is your favorite character trait about yourself? Funny
What is your favorite character trait about each of your family members? Grady is nice. Dexter is funny. Daddy is kind. Why? Because he loves me. Cairi is exciting. Exciting? Intresting. How come? You always surprise us!
What is your favorite color? Blue
What do you want to achieve this year? I want to try to get a lower score on swimming and backstroke
What is a challenge for you? Math
How could you work to overcome it? Study it more
What do you want to be when you grow up? A Swimmer
What would your own house look like? It would look like… it would have 3 stories, a big kitchen, a guest room, 5 bedrooms… 4 plus the guest. It would have lights around the outside with a big backyard and a pool.
What are five words that best describe the type of person you are? Kind, funny, amazing, talented and smart
If you had your own family, what would be important to teach your children? To be kind to others.
Dream vacation? Hawaii for a week, afterwards go to New York, then California, then San Diego, then Canada and then back home.
Favorite book? Flora & Ulysses
Favorite sport? Swimming
Favorite expression of art? Dance
Favorite holiday? Why? Christmas and my birthday. Christmas is fun and you get to be with family, give to others and get presents. My birthday because I get to celebrate me and the day I was born!
Who do you look up to? My grandma’s, Juju Sue and Juju Pam. My Mom and Dad.